Friday, January 20, 2012

A Day Too Long, A Dangerous Difference (Oh Snap!)


Not sure when I’ll get to post this blog due the ice-storm induced blackout we’re enduring in my neighborhood, but it’s being written late on a Thursday.  (Yes, of course I am wearing my red sweater. As well as a balaclava. Inside. That’s a first. For not being in a ski lodge.)

Yesterday, I took particular notice in the common area behind our back yard, of a 15-foot tall deciduous tree that still had not shed its leaves. The leaves had turned varying beautiful shades of red. Maroon, rouge, crimson mixed in with a dark green…yet were still hanging stubbornly on.

They looked even more beautiful against the snow that was falling Wednesday morning, which is likely why I took particular note of it. They were also hanging on a good month past when the other trees like it and near it had shed their foliage. Even that was pretty late…well into December for most of its peers.

This morning when I looked out, the leaves were gone. And so were the branches. And pretty much the whole tree. The ice that coated the bare branches of that tree’s peers made their boughs bow and bend…but they were still intact.

But for that one spectacular, enduring tree that held on to its leaves too long, beautiful as they and it were, it was game over.

I don’t know why those leaves were still hanging on yesterday.  I suppose it didn’t matter why come today.

The lessons to be drawn from this story are so many and so varied…and so obvious. I’ll let you make your own interpretation and application as apropos for your life.

But the common thread no matter how you apply it: there’s a time to let go, to transform, and be ready for the next cycle nature brings. Hold on too long…even one day sometimes… the snow turns to ice...

Oh snap!

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Rogers, Conley, Haque & Me. A Whole New Neighborhood. (Plus Jang.)

In my neighborhood, for the past few months, just about any time you would see me in my home / home office, you would see my new favorite sweater. It’s a beautiful red Merino wool zip-up from Icebreaker in New Zealand that is the most comfy thing you can possible imagine. Originally bought from REI to keep me warm in the mountains while snowshoeing, it’s become my regular companion pretty much everywhere around the abode.

As pointed out to me by my wife, my regular reliance on it also gives me a vaguely Mr. Rogers vibe. (That’s his famous red sweater, not mine, on display at The Smithsonian.)

Credit: Randomduck http://www.flickr.com/photos/rudiriet
While this comparison might concern you, I don’t mind it.

One, you could say I look like Snuffleupagus, it wouldn't stop me from wearing my favorite sweater. (Did I mention I love this sweater?) Also, from a practical standpoint, the more I wear it, the less it costs per hour. Icebreaker Merino wool ain’t cheap.

Two, when I was a kid I loved Mr. Rogers. It was only as an adult that I fully appreciated how creepy some of those puppets were, but that’s another story. As a kid is where this story begins.

When I was around six years old, I wrote a letter to Mr. Rogers telling him how much I enjoyed his show. It was, to my memory, a fairly long letter for a six-year-old, requiring some effort. Then I realized I didn’t have his address. I thought of sending it to his neighborhood, but I was also fairly pragmatic at six, and realized that probably wouldn’t be good enough. So the letter never got mailed. Not sure why I’ve always remembered that…I suppose I am not a big fan of wasted effort. I am, however, a fan of letting people know when I appreciate them and their work.

Fast forward to 2009.

Seeing it displayed in an airport bookstore, I read Chip Conley’s book Peak: How Great Companies Get Their Mojo from Maslow. The book was fantastic. I have read a copious amount of books over the years, but this was the first time I was moved enough to want to go the Mr. Rogers note-of-appreciation route. So, I hit Chip’s website, and sent him a note of appreciation through the feedback page. About 12 hours later, I was surprised and pleased to receive a gracious email back from Chip, who was on his iPhone in Bangkok. Chip has also been gracious enough to stay in touch since. Too bad Mr Rogers didn’t have email.

But that whole process was oh-so-2009 in the neighborhood.

Fast forward again to the last week of 2011. 

While on Twitter, I saw a Tweet from someone I follow about a new Amazon single from Umair Haque called Betterness: Economics for Humans. I downloaded a sample and was very impressed. Thus, I downloaded the whole book, read it in about an hour...and was extremely impressed. When I checked out Umair on Twitter, he happened to be in the midst of a chat session. I joined it, was able to communicate directly with him, and he was as well gracious in appreciation of my readership. We've also had further exchanges since.

In reflecting on the progression of both commerce and communication listed above, I was struck by the stark change in the "neighborhood". (More so from 2009 to now than the previous!)

In 2009, it took going to a bookstore, purchasing a physical book, later hitting a website to communicate with the author, and getting a static email back some time later. Weeks. Physical movement. Transportation. 

In 2011, it was a span of no more than 90 minutes from first becoming aware of the book, to downloading it, to communication directly with the author.

All while sitting in my house.

And, of course, wearing my red sweater.

Fred Rogers passed in 2003. That was the year Time proclaimed, believe it or not, the camera phone one of the Best Inventions of The Year.

Mr. Rogers would never have believed what has happened to the neighborhood. 

That was going to be the end of the article. Then, after hitting Publish at 1am on a Sunday...

...I had a quick Twitter exchange with Seattle news anchor and social celeb Lily Jang about the dream of a Seahawks-Texans Super Bowl.

I won't go into detail about my concomitant-to-Mr Rogers-70's-era affinity for solid newscasters starting all the way back with Bill Beutel and Roger Grimsby on the "original" Eyewitness News in New York City.

But suffice to say, another great example of the new neighborhood. 

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Connectors and a New Ear of Opportunity (er...Era)

I've been watching a fascinating exchange lately.

A couple of small businesses I follow on Twitter have been communicating with each other about a potential deal for one due to the need of the other.

The connection came about for a few reasons.

One, the company in need, instead of doing their own research on who could provide their need, just put it out there on Twitter. "Hey, we need this. Help."

Two, I saw the need, thought of the providing company, and told the company in need: "Hey, check these folks out."

The fascinating part though is how the relationship has developed. As far as I can see, it's all been via Tweets between the two companies. All out there for anyone to see. Essentially, public email exchanges (or text messages I suppose given the short length).

It really is a new era of transparency, connection...and opportunity. (Interesting Freudian slip. When I first wrote this, I wrote "ear of...opportunity". It's that too...if you're listening to the right media channels.)

In some recent consulting engagements, I was surprised to see how unfamiliar some sales teams, leaders, and individuals were with the social media tools available to them. Following unfamiliarity were disinterest, and often, disdain.

Much as I hate to say it, there was a significant correlation to age when it came to acceptance of the new tools that are out there. This kind of phenomenon has been well documented.

What hasn't been has been lost opportunity and commissions...

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

30 Things...To Do (Riff)

Years ago, I read Golf Is Not A Game Of Perfect by Bob Rotella, a noted sports psychologist. In this wonderful book, which has numerous applications to life far beyond the golf course, I found a teaching that greatly impacted my golf game...and life.

Most golfers, as they stand in front of a tricky shot over a water hazard, have the following running through their head: "Don't hit it in the water...don't hit it in the water."

What Dr. Rotella explains, is that there is a funny mechanism in our brains that does the following...it removes the word "don't". Therefore, between your brain and the muscles, the message changes to "Hit it in the water." (Well, that explains some things.)

Owing to that anomaly, he says simply take the message from a prohibitive, to a directive one: "Hit it over the water." That mental trick works well for my personality (see my previous post on Relentless Positivity).

Whether the 17th at Sawgrass is in your mind when you read this or you've never touched a club, the implications are clear.

This approach (pun unintended, but not bad), sprang immediately to mind when I read the following fantastic post on avoiding negative habits from the cooly-named Marc and Angel Hack Life: 30 Things To Stop Doing To Yourself

When I read this excellent article, I was mentally reframing each of the 30 statements that start with the word "stop", into a more directive statement a la Dr. Rotella's approach above. About a third of the way through, I decided to write it out...and here I'll share it with you.

I'd encourage you to go look at the original post, compare my riff on it, consider your own...but most of all...do some of it in your life!

Thank you Marc and Angel for providing the rich source material for this interpretation.

30 Things...To Do...

1. Spend time with the right people.

2. Face your problems.

3. Be honest with yourself.

4. Reprioritize your own needs.

5. Be authentic.

6. Move on.

7. Take a chance.

8. Forgive yourself.

9. Earn deep satisfaction.

10. Look within for stability.

11. Do something.

12. Do something you're not ready for.

13. Pick the right reasons for relationships.

14. Leave old relationships out of new ones.

15. Compete against your own standards.

16. Be appreciative.

17. Learn from failure and move on.

18. Forgive for real for your own sanity.

19. See #15

20. Be authentic start to finish.

21. Disengage.

22. Smell the roses while doing #21

23. Be content with good enough.

24. Take the stairs.

25. Let it out.

26. Woman/Man up.

27. Do what you can and let it go.

28. Sweat the right stuff.

29. Keep your eye on the ball...not everything else.

30. Appreciate.

Monday, December 12, 2011

Relentless Positivity

Don’t know why on a Monday of all days such a positive vibe seems to be in control. (Especially pre-first-cup-of-coffee.)

It did strike me as ironic that a Google search of “brutally honest” yields 5.2 million results, while a search of “relentlessly positive” yields only 129k. For more on my thoughts on brutality and honesty, see http://tricendent.blogspot.com/2009/04/surgery-vs-brutality.html, but for now I’ll focus on positivity.

In the current environment, this seems to be more difficult than ever. Yet much of our drive and resilience comes from positivity, and I love the illustrative juxtaposition of the words in the term Relentlessly Positive. Positivity seems so Pollyanna-ish, yet Relentlessness is so hard-edged. It might seem an oxymoronic phrase, but when you have it, and you stick to it, it pays dividends.

There actually is a blog I had never seen before called Relentlessly Positive. (http://relentlesslypositive.blog.co.uk/) In it, I found a key phrase right at the top of the latest post…

“Someone stole my Mojo for a week or so, but I'm back…”

That’s the great thing about Relentless Positivity, it doesn’t mean you’re always up (did I mention it’s Monday).

It means you always get up.